Making your decision
Things you can do
- Join DC Network A very important part of our work is breaking the isolation felt by so many by putting people in touch with each other. (See Benefits of Membership)
- Contact other single women members from the 'Contact List' you receive when you join and consider meeting up if there is a Support Group in your area, or starting a new group.
- Come on a Preparation for Parenthood workshop. These are for people who have still to make up their minds if donor conception is right for them, and for those who have chosen to go ahead but want to learn more. All DCN events provide dedicated space for single women to meet together, and many workshops are run separately for single women, who make up nearly a third of the total membership.
- Read the appropriate letters that are aimed at would-be parents of donor conceived children
- Borrow one or more of the books/DVD’s in our Library. If you are based in the UK or Ireland you can borrow them free of charge. Also buy the 'Telling and Talking 0-7yrs' booklet for parents of children aged 0 – 7. The beginning sections are essential reading for people making the decision to go ahead or not
- Talk to friends and family & listen to their reactions: you may have to tread gently to gain their support, or you may find an instantly positive response. Whatever the case, consider your situation: going through treatment and raising a child alone is challenging and there will inevitably be times when you need to rely on the support of others. If you have friends with children the same age, they will understand, but if you don’t, you will need to look around and build new networks
Things that can help keep the child in mind
- Join us and talk with single women who are raising donor conceived children about how they made their decisions and what life is like in a ‘choice mum’ family
- Join a support group for single women in your area, or try to get one started so that you can share experiences, and if you are lucky, provide a community of others for you and your children
- Read the 'Telling and Talking' series of booklets for insights into how children change in their understanding of their beginnings as they grow up
- Read accounts from donor conceived adults about how they feel about their origins. Note the differences between those whose parents seemed comfortable with their decisions and were open with their children, and those who only learned of their donor conception later in life. Their stories can be found on this site, in many of the books available in our Library and on other web sites
- Consider joining a register such as the Donor Sibling Registry (in the USA) in case you can contact other families with children born from the same donor
- If you need any information you can’t find on the website or would like to discuss any of this, please don’t hesitate to contact us or the co-ordinator for single women, whose details are provided when you join