Male same-sex couple
Information and resources for same-sex male couples considering using egg donation and surrogacy, as well as for two-dad families who already have children conceived this way.
Getting started
Considering donor conception?
You might be coming to this website having decided you want to be parents and wondering if egg donation with surrogacy might be the best route. Itโs a big decision, not least because the practical, legal and financial aspects are quite complicated. But youโve come to the right place to get support and information on how to get started.
Already parents?
If you have children already you might be looking for contact with other couples or other donor conception families, both for yourselves and for your child. Maybe youโre being asked questions at work or by family or friends and are wondering how to respond. You might be looking for information and guidance around how to explain things to your child or how to talk with your child as he or she gets older.
We know many of our same-sex couples like the DCN environment because we include all families, regardless of how they are constituted. It can be great (and interesting!) for children to realise itโs not just gay couples that use egg donation or surrogacy. Have a look at the ‘Telling and Talking’ section to start off.
Events you might like
Blue events are DCN members-only, purple are open to all:
Member event
Online
May
19
Parents with children ages 13 – 18
You are invited to join us for a conversation for parents of children in the age ranges of 13-18 years old. Members in all family circumstances are invited.
This is a place of peer support, whatever stage you are at of ‘telling’, you are very welcome to join the conversation and benefit from the experience and connections on offer.
DCN Chat is a peer support online get-together. This DCN Chat will be hosted by Sarah, mum to adult twins, conceived with sperm donation. All our DCN Chat facilitators are members themselves, volunteers, and hosting the chat as individuals. This is not a professionally led or educational event.
Member event
In person
May
31
Scotland: Meetup in Edinburgh
We are delighted to invite our Scottish members to a family meetup in The Royal Botanic Garden Edinburgh
Sunday 31 May at botanic gardens, Edinburgh 10:30-12:00
– Edinburgh botanic gardens. Meet at the Terrace cafe up the hill
Sarah, local meetup coordinator, will look forward to welcoming you to this event.
Members in all situations are very welcome. Whether you have children already or still considering, do come along to meet others in the Network!
Member event
Online
Jun
1
โReflectionsโ – Parents of DC Adults
You are invited to join the group for parents of DC adults. This group will be facilitated by Jane, one of our longterm members who also works with DCN.
We are inviting parents of those with children who are adults.
We hope this chat can offer an attuned space to the discussions that may be more relevant to the context in which children were conceived 20+ years ago, in a different climate to that which is now prevalent, with regards to openness in particular.
Join us for discussion and support from peers.
Member event
In person
Jun
7
**Date change: West Midlands meetup for all
The next DCN West Midlands meeting will be on Sunday 7th May, 1pm
Sutton Park, Sutton Coldfield B74 2YT
Meet at Sutton Park Town Gate Visitor Centre at 1pm then we will find a picnic spot nearer the playground.
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Member event
Online
Jun
10
Couples (including separated couples) with children ages 0-3
You are invited to join us for a conversation for members who are parents to small children aged 0-3 years old.
DCN Chat is a peer support online get-together. This DCN Chat will be hosted by Rachel, who together with her husband, has two children through donor conception. All our DCN Chat facilitators are members themselves, volunteers, and hosting the chat as individuals. This is not a professionally led or educational event.
Join us for a supportive space to talk to others in similar situations. If you find that you need further support, please don’t hesitate to contact the DC Network office on enquiries@dcnetwork.org
Member event
Online
Jun
10
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
Member event
Online
Jun
11
Anonymous donation – for those who don’t have ID release or known donors
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing anonymous donation and how that is experienced for us as donation recipients. The chat will be facilitated by Valentina, DCN member, and mum through egg donation to two children through anonymous donation.
Please be aware that the Anonymous donation chatโs purpose is to understand the meaning that is given to the anonymous donation and how it is managed by those who are already parents. Prospective parents can join the call, however the main goal is to offer an opportunity to talk through the meaning that recipient parents give to the anonymous donation, rather than explore whether this is the best route for prospective parents, which would be best done in the thinker/tryer spaces.
This DCN Chat is to offer a space to talk about experiences. This is not an educational event and rather, is offered as a peer-support opportunity.
Members and non-members
Online
Jun
13
Workshop: Continuing the Conversation
Workshop for parents of donor conceived children aged **10-20 years.**
Do you find the idea of your child connecting with their donor or half-siblings a daunting prospect? Perhaps you’re unsure how to raise the topic with them, or youโd value a safe space to explore what it might mean if – or when – they choose to make contact?
Our new Continuing the Conversation workshop offers just that: a supportive space to think about the future, consider the possible implications, and build confidence in navigating these conversations with your child. It is suitable regardless of whether you used an anonymous, ID release or known donor, although the conversations might be different, of course.
**At this event, you will:**
* Think about the future and what might unfold for you and your child if and when they want to make contact with genetic connections
* Build confidence in having conversations about the donor and genetic relatives.
**The workshop will enable you to:**
* Consider the options available to you and your child โ gain an understanding of the options available for accessing information about your donor and your childโs half siblings, whether you had treatment in the UK or overseas
* Share common hopes and fears that parents experience when their child talks about the donor
* Learn about how and when you might raise the topic with your child
* Think through what questions your child might have and what support they might need
* Connect with other parents of donor conceived children
* Be ready for the wide range of feelings your child might have, how they might differ from your own, and how they might change over time.
* Gain knowledge and confidence to support you and your child in decision making.
**Who is it for?**
This workshop is specially designed for parents of donor conceived children aged 10-20 years who have already told their child about being donor conceived. It is suitable for all family types and is equally appropriate whether your treatment took place in the UK or abroad.
**Highlights include:**
* Small group discussions with others to discuss feelings and experiences
* Hear donor conceived people talking about feelings towards genetic connections
* Session with practical tips on starting and continuing the conversation with your child
* Hosted by three extremely experienced facilitators who are parents of donor conceived people
* Session on research findings on donor conceived people connecting with genetic relatives
* Brief overview of ways to find information for future self-investigation.
**What the workshop wonโt do:**
* Help you tell for the first time: This workshop is designed for parents who have already told their child about their origins and we therefore do not cover telling your child for the first time. If you have not yet begun that initial conversation, our Telling & Talking pages have information you may find helpful to get started.ย
* Provide detailed information on ways to find genetic relatives: we will tell you the essentials of what is possible but this workshop is not a how-to guide on connecting with genetic relatives.
* Tell you *why* you should look for genetic connections: We are not offering this programme to encourage you to connect with the donor โ that is always a decision for you and your family. Rather, we want to help you think about the implications for your child and for yourself if and when they seek to make contact.
Some quotes from attendees:
*”It was the right approach and level of info. Informal, with structure – not stuffy!”*
*”It was really good to be able to take some space to listen to views, hear information and be prodded to think about things that inevitably just become part of the background of wider family life.”*
This workshop has been made possible by funding from the European Sperm Bank and the Young Adults Study and we are enormously grateful for their support. We also allocated the money we raised from our 2025 Appeal towards this project, including the match funding from the London Sperm Bank. Thanks go to all our donors and members for contributing and enabling us to support our community in continuing important family conversations.
Member event
In person
Jun
13
Bromley DCN meetup
Join the Bromley group for its next meetup on:
Saturday 13 June
3-5pm
Kelsey Park, Beckenham BR3 6QH
Member event
In person
Jun
14
West London meetup
Come along to join the next meetup for members in West London
on Sunday 14th June at Ravenscourt Park.
Members in all family circumstances are warmly welcome as well thinkers & triers!
Local group coordinator, Chloe, solo mom of 2 year old Lily, will be there to welcome you and the families will have a chance to meet.
Member event
In person
Jun
14
Kent – Summer picnic
Join the Kent group for their next in person meetup at Mote park.
Hope to see you there – all welcome, at any stage!!!
Further details to be added closer to date.
Member event
Online
Jun
15
Miscarriage or other significant challenges during treatment with donor gametes
This DCN chat specifically for members who have experienced miscarriage following donor conception or have come up against other significant challenges which have resulted in multiple failed DC attempts.
In recognition of the particularly sensitive nature of this topic, the chat/group will be facilitated by Julie, one of our DCN Professional Members, who is a counsellor experienced in working with fertility issues and donor conception. However, like other DCN chats, it is intended to offer an opportunity to share experiences, feelings and challenges with a view to creating a mutually supportive space.
Member event
Online
Jun
30
Parents with children ages 13 – 18 Couples (heterosexual and same-sex)
You are invited to join us for a conversation for parents to children children ages approx. 13-18 or approximately. Members in same-sex couples and heterosexual couples are particularly invited. This is a place of peer support, whatever stage you are at of ‘telling’, you are very welcome to join the conversation and benefit from the experience and connections on offer.
DCN Chat is a peer support online get-together. This DCN Chat will be hosted by Sarah, mum to adult twins, conceived with sperm donation. All our DCN Chat facilitators are members themselves, volunteers, and hosting the chat as individuals. This is not a professionally led or educational event.
Member event
In person
Jul
3
Yorkshire – Camping trip
Invitation from the event organiser:
The Yorkshire branch of the DCN are coming together for a camping w/e for 2 nights – on Friday 3nd July, at Masons Campsite, Bolton Abbey, Yorkshire Dales.
There are many regular attenders as weโve been coming together for our camping w/e for many years now but we really welcome new members. Itโs a lovely campsite by the river with lots of space so bikes, swimming togs and wetsuits all welcome. Families with children young and older are warmly invited.
Member event
In person
Jul
14
London: Men Only Get-Together
Calling all men in the Network…
Come and join our get-together for *men only*: an opportunity to meet others in the Network and discuss issues which are of particular relevance to you, relating to donor conception and becoming a family through this route.
One of DCN’s lovely volunteers, Chris, will be hosting the event and waiting to welcome you and make sure its a great evening.
On this occassion, we are welcoming men at all stages, in all family circumstances; those who are intended parents, in treatment, expecting or parents, through sperm, egg or double/embryo donation.
Come and chat and share as little or as much as you feel comfortable, in a room of people who understand.
Member event
Online
Aug
5
Men considering or going through treatment with sperm donation, or dads through this route
This DCN chat is for men only – in heterosexual couples, considering, undertaking treatment or dads through sperm donation.
This Chat will be facilitated by Chris, dad to two children, conceived with sperm donation.
DCN Chats offer a space for members to come together to talk about shared issues. This is a peer support online get-together.
All our DCN Chat facilitators are members themselves, and hosting the chat as individuals. This is not a professionally led or educational event.
Join us for a friendly non-judgemental space to talk to others in similar situations. If you find that you need further support, please dont hesitate to contact the DC Network office on enquiries@dcnetwork.org
Member event
Online
Aug
12
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
Member event
Online
Oct
7
Men considering or going through treatment with sperm donation, or dads through this route
This DCN chat is for men only – in heterosexual couples, considering, undertaking treatment or dads through sperm donation.
This Chat will be facilitated by Chris, dad to two children, conceived with sperm donation.
DCN Chats offer a space for members to come together to talk about shared issues. This is a peer support online get-together.
All our DCN Chat facilitators are members themselves, and hosting the chat as individuals. This is not a professionally led or educational event.
Join us for a friendly non-judgemental space to talk to others in similar situations. If you find that you need further support, please dont hesitate to contact the DC Network office on enquiries@dcnetwork.org
Member event
Online
Oct
14
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
Member event
In person
Nov
4
Men Only Get-Together: Dads or intended dads through sperm Donation
Join an in-person meetup for men only, and specifically for those considering, in treatment, or dads through sperm donation.
Do join us for this event โ we would love to see you there! Chris will be there to welcome you and help everyone have a great evening.
We know it can feel awkward to join meetups where you don’t know people, especially around a sensitive topic like this, but we never fail to hear excellent feedback about these events and how valuable they are.
Members and non-members
In person
Nov
21
Getting Started
Event for prospective parents thinking about using egg, sperm or embryo donation.
If youโre thinking about using donor conception, you probably have lots of questions. This event is the perfect place to start getting answers. Join us and hear from:
* __An embryologist__ from a UK clinic giving a really informative overview of the medical side of things. We always get fantastic feedback about this session, which provides an essential foundation with lots of time for questions.
* __Donor conceived people__ talking about their experiences. How do the children feel? We know this is something lots of prospective parents wonder about. This event provides a rare opportunity to hear from them in person and ask questions. Not to be missed!
* __Parents__ talking through their decision-making and describing family life once children arrive. Nothing beats hearing from people with real life experience.
๐ช๐ต๐ผ ๐ถ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ป๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ? This event is suitable for everyone at the start of their donor conception journey, for same-sex and heterosexual couples and for those planning to become single parents. It’s a friendly, inclusive chance to meet others at a similar stage in a relaxed environment at this in-person event.
๐๐ณ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ ๐ฎ๐ป๐ฑ ๐ถ๐บ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐๐ถ๐ฎ๐น: The full day costs just ยฃ80 per person or ยฃ140 per couple when booked before 22 October (ยฃ95 and ยฃ170 after that date) and the 11am start time makes it easy to get to Waterloo and home in a day. This event is a Donor Conception Network event so you can rest assured that all information will be impartial and based on our experience as a charity working with donor conception families for the past 30+ years.
๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐’๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ด๐ฟ๐ฎ๐บ๐บ๐ฒ?
You can find the full programme with timings below.
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The ticket price includes tea, coffee and cake but not lunch; this helps us keep costs down and means you can choose and order whatever you’d like separately. You can find the pub’s menu here: https://www.thehercules.co.uk/food/menus. You are also free to bring some lunch of course but we hope you’ll stay with us during the break as it will be a great opportunity to chat with other attendees on dedicated tables by family and donation type. Sharing time with others on a similar journey to yourself can be incredibly valuable.
Member event
Online
Dec
9
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
Member event
Online
Feb
10
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
Member event
Online
Apr
14
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
Member event
Online
Jun
9
Half sibling discussion
This DCN Chat is aimed at discussing the pros and cons of taking steps to identify genetic siblings. We will offer a space to deliberate about the merits and pitfalls of this and what possible implications doing so/or not do so might have on you and your child. The chat will be facilitated by Adrienne, who is a solo mum with a child born in 2020. This forum is for discussing the topic, rather than a ‘how to’.
** Becuase of the nature of the conversation we ask that participants are particularly careful not to share identifying details of their donor.
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