Personal Stories

We are very grateful to all those who have taken the time to write about their personal experiences of donor conception and issues relating to it. These stories are invaluable in helping to share common feelings around complex issues. Reading about how others have dealt with things is often very reassuring.

Use the drop-down options to search for particular story types. And if you would like to contribute your own story, please do get in touch with us.

Using surrogacy to build a family is becoming more common and is, of course, legal in the UK.

the Family Law team at A City Law Firm

Fertility lawyer Natalie Gamble celebrates the legal changes that have empowered LGBT families in the UK

Natalie Gamble NGA Law - From the DCN Journal issue 19 – Winter 2018
Spence Joel and family

"... we had conversations quite early on about having children one day but first we wanted to enjoy life as a couple, build our careers, travel and enjoy life. Then my sister had kids and they were a wonderful addition to our family. I loved spending time with them and I realised how much our families meant to us and how much I wanted children."

Written by Spencer in 2019

Growing up I have always known that I was donor conceived. We were always very open about it in my family and had talks about it whenever it occupied my mind in different stages of childhood. I have always felt like the most wanted child on the planet.

Written by Emma in 2019

"For those men considering using donor sperm who are worried about whether they will bond with their donor conceived children. For those men with fears that their kids will consider them a fraud."

Written by Eric in 2019.

"It is very important to me and essential for my mental health that I still have an active social life, so I have worked hard on figuring out how best to achieve that when I am the sole carer for my daughter."

Written by Mel in 2019.

My mothers were always really open about my conception, and that is something I appreciate. That way I could form my own opinion about my conception story and the industry around it, and I could talk with them about it.

Joëlle
Becky from Defining Mum with twins

"... being a parent is not solely defined by genetics - over the past few years I’ve learnt there’s so much more to being a mum than DNA."

Written by Becky in 2019.

I discovered through a DNA testing website that I was conceived with a sperm donor. Since then, I've found that I have at least fourteen half-siblings and one donor who is, genetically, half of me.